{"id":2541,"date":"2021-06-10T15:10:27","date_gmt":"2021-06-10T15:10:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.codetrauma.com\/?p=2541"},"modified":"2021-06-10T16:12:34","modified_gmt":"2021-06-10T16:12:34","slug":"domestic-violence-part-2-the-red-flags","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.codetrauma.com\/en\/domestic-violence-part-2-the-red-flags\/","title":{"rendered":"Domestic Violence Part 2: The Red Flags and Early Signs"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><em>Read <a href=\"https:\/\/www.codetrauma.com\/domestic-violence-it-doesnt-just-happen-to-others\/\">the first part of our series on Domestic Violence here<\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>An abusive relationship, especially at the beginning, doesn\u2019t have to be all negative. You may be happy, things may seem normal\u2026but beware of these early signs and red flags of domestic violence:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Your partner may want to spend as much one-on-one time with you as possible<\/strong>. This may seem wonderful at first, but it could be their way of controlling you and creating co-dependance.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Your partner may be eager to combine your finances early on<\/strong>. Again, you may find this awesome.\u00a0 You may think he or she is excited and serious about your relationship.\u00a0 But beware: there is a thin line between being interested and concerned about you and wanting to know and control your every move.<\/li>\n<li><strong>If the gifts, compliments and praises keep coming<\/strong>, look out, they may be love bombing you and later on, use this as leverage to control you.<\/li>\n<li><strong>If your partner keeps giving you unsolicited feedback about how you can better yourself<\/strong>, the intension may not be to help you but rather to have you question your worth.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2 style=\"text-align: left;\">Red Flags and Early Signs :<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-2542 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/codetrauma.s3.us-east-2.amazonaws.com\/2021\/06\/Screen-Shot-2021-06-10-at-10.39.39-AM.png\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1178px) 100vw, 1178px\" srcset=\"https:\/\/codetrauma.s3.us-east-2.amazonaws.com\/2021\/06\/Screen-Shot-2021-06-10-at-10.39.39-AM-300x227.png 300w, https:\/\/codetrauma.s3.us-east-2.amazonaws.com\/2021\/06\/Screen-Shot-2021-06-10-at-10.39.39-AM-768x580.png 768w, https:\/\/codetrauma.s3.us-east-2.amazonaws.com\/2021\/06\/Screen-Shot-2021-06-10-at-10.39.39-AM-1024x774.png 1024w, https:\/\/codetrauma.s3.us-east-2.amazonaws.com\/2021\/06\/Screen-Shot-2021-06-10-at-10.39.39-AM.png 1178w\" alt=\"Cloud of domestic abuse red flags and signs\" width=\"1178\" height=\"890\" \/><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>To read more about red flags and early signs of Domestic Violence, check out this <a href=\"https:\/\/www.healthline.com\/health\/signs-of-mental-abuse#emotional-neglect-and-isolation\">Healthline article<\/a>. <a href=\"#_edn1\" name=\"_ednref1\"><sup>[i]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n<h2><a href=\"https:\/\/www.codetrauma.com\/domestic-violence-resources\/\"><strong><u>View our list of Domestic Violence Ressources and Emergency Action Plan.<\/u><\/strong><\/a><\/h2>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h5>Written by: Tara Grenier, M.Sc., CAT(C), Injury Prevention Professional at the Montreal General Hospital- McGill University Health Centre<\/h5>\n<h6><a href=\"#_ednref1\" name=\"_edn1\">[i]<\/a> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.healthline.com\/health\/signs-of-mental-abuse#emotional-neglect-and-isolation\">https:\/\/www.healthline.com\/health\/signs-of-mental-abuse#emotional-neglect-and-isolation<\/a><\/h6>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Read the first part of our series on Domestic Violence here. An abusive relationship, especially at the beginning, doesn\u2019t have to be all negative. You may be happy, things may seem normal\u2026but beware of these early signs and red flags of domestic violence: Your partner may want to spend as much one-on-one time with you [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":2544,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[40],"tags":[87,85,113,91,114,112],"class_list":["post-2541","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-articles","tag-abuse","tag-domestic-violence","tag-feminicide","tag-gaslighting","tag-manipulation-2","tag-violence-signs"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v26.4 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>Domestic Violence Part 2: The Red Flags and Early Signs - Code Trauma<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"An abusive relationship, especially at the beginning, doesn\u2019t have to be all negative. 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